Ending a marriage in divorce doesn’t necessarily mean that two people will be out of each other’s lives. This is especially true when it comes to parents who divorce. In most cases, parents will continue to share legal and/or physical custody of their children during the children’s minority and share life events thereafter.
How do you set the stage for an amicable co-parenting relationship that benefits parents and children? In this post, we have three things to keep in the forefront during the darkest moments in the divorce process.
When you opt for a collaborative divorce, you are choosing a cooperative approach. Instead of battling each other in court, your focus must remain on working together.
A team of professionals can also assist you to reach mutually agreeable solutions. This ability to compromise, even when it comes to difficult issues, sets a strong example for kids and makes it easier for parents to continue working together after the divorce.
Try to hold on to respect and compassion even as you begin to move in separate directions. This can keep the divorce amicable. When you are able to resolve issues out of court, you can avoid getting entrenched in positions that might cause bad feelings. It’ll also make it more likely you can continue to communicate respectfully and trust each other as co-parents.
Remember it is not only you and your soon-to-be-ex going through a divorce. Your children, parents and friends can also be affected by the legal process and outcomes. Don’t let bitter and contentious comments and behaviors fracture the sense of community and family your child or children have developed. Even if you were not the one who made the decision to divorce, you have many choices throughout the process including encouraging those involved on your side to remain civil.
Because of the positive impact collaborative divorce can have on parents’ relationship with each other, their children and their families, it is an approach worth considering. Not only can it expedite the process, it can also make it easier for parents and children to move forward in a positive direction after divorce.